Don’t let a bad temper destroy your relationships

Fahrin Ahmad - Face of Garnier Men Malaysia

I first knew of Fahrin Ahmad when I was introduced to him during the launch of Garnier Men in Malaysia. So when I came across this piece of news in The Star newspaper today, I was perturbed.

It was a statement issued by Fahrin Ahmad’s former girlfriend, local celebrity Linda Onn. Here’s the excerpt from the web version of the news.

CELEBRITY Linda Onn has finally revealed why her relationship with actor Fahrin Ahmad ended, Sinar Harian reported.

“This happened a long time ago. If others asked whether Fahrin had ever harmed me, the answer is ‘yes’. I’d be lying if I denied this fact.

“Fahrin, as I know him, is hot tempered. If a situation turns wrong, he will get angry and hit people,” she claimed. Linda added she was disclosing the information as she wanted people to know the truth.

She also said she pitied Fahrin’s former girlfriend, Scha Al-Yahya, who had also claimed to have been beaten by the actor and host of the reality show Sehati Berdansa.

“People always blame her but they don’t know the real story,” Linda said, adding that she was now best friends with Scha.

Linda also hoped that her name would not be linked to Fahrin anymore.

I was not happy reading this piece of news. I wonder if Garnier is aware of this too? Having a spokesperson with this sort of reputation of a hot temper and hitting people is not a good reflection of the brand.

It also raises the subject of allowing your temper to get in the way of relationships. Everyone has a temper – its just the degree to which you can handle and control your temper to avoid souring relationships.

Hitting anyone, whether it be your girlfriend or even a guy friend just because you lost your temper is NOT acceptable. In this regard, relationships can extend to both romantic relationships and friendships.

No one likes a grumpy hot tempered person. Some people have greater tolerance than others, and perhaps, in the case of romantic relationships, love is blind and forgiveness divine. But it is never acceptable to hit someone just because you are angry or upset. Physical violence is the first step to the end of a relationship.

If you know you get angry easily, try to do what experts advice and count to 10 before doing or saying anything. Sometimes, you can be so provoked as to do something drastic, but in the process, you can end up putting an end to your relationship or maybe even your life. There are numerous instances of people who have died after resorting to physical violence.

So don’t let a bad temper be the end of your relationship – and NEVER EVER raise your hand to the women of your life.